Sugasm #173

HNT courtesy of Secrets of a Blue-Eyed Vixen.

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #174? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks

Dressing Room Voyeur

“I caught his gaze this time, on purpose.”

It’s Always the Quiet Ones…

“So grabbing her hips, I pulled her in for a kiss.”

Behind Closed Doors

“Others had watched, she beat me, brought me to tears, held me and then began to untie me.”

Sugasm Editor

The Mouse Drama

Editor’s Choice

Let the Rain Come

More Sugasm

Join the Sugasm

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

News, Reviews & Interviews

Book Review: Anal Pleasure and Health


Earth Angel podcast review – the first 100% green sex toy!


Lelo Gigi Made Me A Very Happy Girl!

Thoughts on Sex & Relationships

Dating Options 101: Whatchagot

Finally, my thoughts on marriage equality

I hate online dating period

BDSM & Fetish

Being Bendy, Beaten and Punished

Make Me Want It

Male Chastity Devices

Miss Susan, Nick B and Montreal Fetish Weekend


The One I Miss the Most

Sissy Hubby

Spanking Fake

Tuesday Night – The First Time

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio

2 Pretty maids severely spanked

Aimee Addison

Deep cutting cane stripes

Hal-Nekkid Anniversary pt2

Huge wobbly buttocks

Kelly Brook in Sexy Lingerie

Sunflowers part III

Take Comfort

Sex Advice

Can a Woman Feel When a Man Ejaculates Inside Her?

How To Fuck in Public or Recession Era Hook-up Spots

Erotic Writing & Experiences

The Accidental Orgy

Blowjobs and Beautiful People

The Conclusion of the Duchess’s Adventure

Cottage Country part 1

Countdown. Confession #340

Dance the Night Away, Part 2

Darklady’s Detention Hall (an Event Report)

Flasher: Regrets


HNT: The Gift


Lessons Learned (1/2)

Red And Blue Make…

Rub Me Up The Right Way

She Deserves Better

The Succubus Wakes



Erotic Poetry

Her Warmth

Licking The Beatles

In Defense of Second Base

First base is kissing – how deeply may be open to debate, but the fact remains – it is universally agreed that first base has been reached once two sets of lips meet.

Third base? Well in my mind, that involves two people naked, but neither have either penetrated nor been penetrated. Some may allow for oral sex at this base, and some may not. Personally I would allow it, as I believe that a sound argument can be made for a the sanctity of a person’s virginity if they have only experienced oral sex. (I could write an entire post on this topic, but it’s not my immediate point for today…)

Home base? Well, be it with a tongue or fingers or cock thrusting into pussy – I think we can agree that this is the final destination. Once this has been reached, one’s innocence has become a memory.

But what about second base? A base that receives far too little attention in my humble opinion. So many glorious sensations to be experienced there.

To me, second base is all about the most delicate, sensitive and under appreciated sex organ on the body: the skin.

A few short centuries ago, the only opportunity for men and women to touch while unmarried was while dancing. Perhaps that’s why they did it so often and so artfully. They knew something that we’ve forgotten – that touch was something sensual and forbidden. To touch each other was an illicit temptation.

We seem to forget that fact so quickly now in our haste to paw at each other. But with each new beginning we are reminded. Before we ever find ourselves straddling and thrusting, it all begins with the intoxicating simplicity of skin touching skin.

Remember how beautifully erotic it can be to simply lie together – unclothed- feeling each other. Intercourse itself can last mere moments, but exploratory caresses can be prolonged to infinity.

To simply lie together requires one to exercise restraint – yet opens you up to eternities of possibilities, imaginings and memories of adolescent wet dreams.

To be a woman – allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable- to gift your trust to another – a moment of unacknowledged care and devotion that you’ve allowed this other being to possess…
For that moment in time, you have permitted them to explore and handle you. It is a thing of beauty to be cherished. This moment. This allowance.

And what will they give in return? For one does not relinquish such a treasure without expecting something in response.

In return- the woman seeks release. Release from the mundane trivialities of the surrounding world. In return she expects to be worshiped and venerated. To have an private world woven for her of intimate caresses, soft licks and kisses, and beguiling whispers.

The skin is a generous organ- allowing for any number of sensations- ranging from a gentle breeze to a cascading wave of drowning passion.

To feel his fingers tracing along your clavicle – perhaps as his tongue licks your earlobe. How primed are you already? Would this be a delight? Creating shivers and goosebumps? Or might this result too quickly in a soft moan and nails digging into flesh?

To simply look on each other naked is tantamount to surging arousal, as nude bodies are unquestionably sublime works of art. For millenia artists have deicated countless hours and canvasses to the glorification of the human form.

Do we not deserve more than perfunctory groping and thrusting at each other? The gift of pleasuring one another is something that should occasionally be savoured and appreciated like a fine wine.

When we lie alone at night we are reminded of this fact each time we touch ourselves. We do not fumble and grab at our bodies. We sensuously caress and allow ourselves time to build up to arousal. We understand that we are not in a constant state of sexual readiness – to get “into the mood” onerequires a delicate seduction – even if it is a solo activity. We understand when we are following our solitary pursuits that simply touching out skin may be sufficient – before genital stimulation ever occurs.

So I challenge you thus – when next you find yourself with your lover, why not forsake the easy release of penetration and pursue the more challenging endeavour of bringing them to orgasm simply through second base rated touch. A “skin orgasm” if you will…

Wet and Slippery

In the package I received from the delightful folk over at Sex Toys was some products from the Intimate Organics line.

So today my darlings, we’re going to talk a bit about lubrication.

The Intimate Organics Line was created in 2008 to give women and men a safer and more natural choice fro enjoying intimate moments, alone or together. *from the brochure

The lube they sent me was: Hydra Glycerine Free Vegan Friendly Water Base Lubricant

Now I decided to once again do a bit of homework on this. I mean, there’s only so much you can say about and do with lube- yet there seems to be a vast array of choices out there.

There seem to be a few main types of lubricant: water-based, oil-based and silicone-based.
After a preliminary search, it seems that water-based is the most functional. It is safe for use with all toys and condoms, cleans the most easily and is least likely to cause any kind of skin reaction.

Intimate Organics seem to have kicked it up a notch: not only is it water-based, it is also made from natural ingredients. For example- the top ingredient is in fact “aqua” (which I suppose is a fancy way of saying water), there’s also some alcohol and leaf and berry extracts in there.
The pamphlet also talked about conditioners for the skin, which I suppose is where the aloe extracts come in as well.

All in all, I was not terrified to use this on my pink parts.

So since I’m in a wee bit of a dry spell at the moment, this was used strictly on me and my toys the past few nights. And well? It lubed. It made both me and the toys all cool and slick. Insertion was downright dreamy. And it did clean off within moments.

There was no noticable smell to this lube, but there was a definite taste to it. Maybe a bit sour? Not awful, but not flavoured either. However, the pamphlet does indicate that it’s vegan-friendly. As well, since it’s such a high water content, this is definitely a thin, liquidy lube- as opposed to the oil-based that comes out in a thicker gel form.

My only other observation about water-based lubricants, and this one specifically is not particularly new or original. Because it’s mostly made of water, it does tend to dry out more quickly than an oil or a silicone-based lube. It’s one of the trade offs for having a more natural product.

Yes, those other materials might last longer, but they also leave a residue, they’re harder to clean, and they might just cause a skin reaction.

I did like this product, but there’s nothing overwhelmingly interesting about it. It’s a lube. It did it’s job. It neither excited nor offended me. You definitely pay for the “organic” label though -as it is regularly priced at $23.99, on sale at the site for $15.99.

Duchess Rating: 3.5 out of 5

Pleasurists #46 & Reminder About Nipple Charm Contest!


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Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #45? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #47? Submit it here before Sunday September 20th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter.

Madame Editrix

Scarlet Lotus St. Syr

Editor’s Pick

  • G-Twist by Shanna Germain
  • The battery housing is slightly confusing — you have to press the sides in really hard in order to open it (I struggled with it for so long, I thought about asking my neighbor for help, but since I’ve not said anything more to him than “hello” and “oh, it’s really okay that your dog barked all night long, no worries,” I figured that showing up at his doorstep with a pseudo-cock, a couple of batteries and a helpless look wasn’t the world’s best idea).

    Editor’s Note: While there have been a lot of G-Twist reviews lately from all the new GoodVibes Brand Ambassadors I think this one far surpasses the others (including my own). Not to say the others are bad, perish the thought, but just because this one actually made me smile at times and even chuckle at others.

On to the reviews…



Anal Toys

Toys for Cocks

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.


Adult Books

Adult Movies/Porn

Sex Furniture



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So Nikki over at asked me to check out her site, and let herself be persuaded to do a give-away here in my little corner of the universe.

Now, as fond as I am of tattoos, I admit I have very few piercings – only my ears. And as my proclivities lie in other arenas, I was uncertain as to whether nipple clamps and the like would be something that I could write about extensively…

However when I went over to the site, I was pleasantly surprised. There is a nice variety of body jewellery- with a plethora of options in the non-piercing variety.

Now the site itself does have a relatively new or amateurish look to it- you can tell that they are still a relatively small company. But it does have it’s charms (no pun intended) and what it’s done- it’s done well.

There are a small number of items in each category: ranging from adult toys (very few) to earrings, to nipple jewellery, to temporary tattoos, toe rings and more.

Their products are often thematic, such as anklets with handcuffs dangling, necklaces proclaiming MFM, FFM, etc etc.

And of course the largest section is the nipple jewellery – with a variety of chains, dangles, rings, and more – both in pierced and non-piercing styles.

My favourites (and a hint for anyone who would like to send me a little present):

1. Nikki- if you want me to do a review of this product – I would love to, I’m positively fascinated by it…
Intimate Electric Dry Razor Pussy & Body Bare Shavers

2. Crystal tattoos– either around the nipples or belly button is what I would have in mind…
(The Duchess’s personal choice? Round Multi Color Flowers Crystals Temp Tatts Single)

3. Belly Button – non-piercing jewellery.
(My fave? Belly Solitaire Marquise cut CZ Flower Double Dangles)

Now – who wants to win a little something??
How about these nipple bells?

There are three ways to enter:

1. Go over to the site and let me know what your favourite item is.
2. Tweet about this contest – and either send me a link to the tweet in my comments, or include an @SexyDuchess in the tweet.
3. Send me a photo of you in some nipple jewellery. (And let me know if I can post the photo – I’m sure my readers would love to see it!)

Contest closes: Saturday, September 19 at midnight CST.

Good luck!

Hot and Fruity

So there’s lube – which is awesome, and then there’s warming oil – which is spectacular…

The darlings over at Sex Toys sent me over some lovely new oil to get naughty with: Hot Stuff Warming Oil – Strawberry Topco

Now never having used warming oil before, I did a little research. My most pressing questions were thus: is it safe to use all over – i.e. will it cause any damage to my delicate little pink parts? How much should I use? Is this something that should just be delicately licked or can I slather it everywhere at will? What’s it made of? If it “warms” then does that mean it’s all chemically? What exactly does one do with warming oil? Just rub it around and blow on it? Seems like the novelty would wear off quick.

Oh so many questions! To be honest, I found it to be rather a fascinating project.

First of all – what’s it made of? Two ingredients: glycerin and flavour.
Now for those of us non-chemists – glycerin is a natural by-product of the soap making process and is all kinds of fabulous for the skin (in a moisturizing way…).
So yeah, moisturizer and flavour- not so panicky about my lady bits anymore.

Now what about the fun parts? What to do? How much?

Well, the “how much” question is something that you’ll have to find an answer to yourself. Call it a personal quest. But – I will add the caveat- it is an “oil.” So bear that in mind when pulling out your expensive silk sheets – a drop cloth may be in order.

What to do?

Well here’s my recommendation for an interesting, and thorough sampling of this product.

First: dribble some on – either yourself or your partner – who am I to make assumptions?
Rub it in a bit and give it a little blow. Feel the heat? Oh yeah.
Next? Give it a little lick. Mmmmm strawberry.

On a very basic level- this product is in fact what it advertises to be: strawberry flavoured and scented – and warming. Blow on it and it will send deliciously hot shivers all over you. Lick it and you get a sweet taste of strawberries. Gotta love a product that delivers.

Next? Well- it calls itself an edible massage oil- so why not rub it all over yourself/partner? Rubbing it also heats it up, and shall I remind you? Glycerin? Moisturizing! And really – when’s the last time you gave a massage that hasn’t led to sex ? Think of it as foreplay. Even with yourself.

Finally? Why not rub it on his cock or her pussy? Lick it, massage it, heat it up…
Have a partner? No worries about the condom my lovelies- rub it on – slip on the condom, and enjoy the resulting heat. The oil won’t have a detrimental effect on the protection…

On your own? Well I can tell you – rub a bit of this onto the toy and it definitely adds to the experience. Why not even run the tube under some hot water beforehand? Even hotter…

I did enjoy this product – once I did a bit of homework on the mundane details I began to realize the potential of something that I had never really put much thought into before.
It is messy though- so you do have to be careful using it – or have a much more laissez-faire attitude about cleanliness than I do.

Duchess Rating: 3.5 out of 5